“There is still much we can and should be learning about that unique and precious woman who is our wife, that gift from God to whom we have pledged our lifelong devotion. There are two primary ways we can learn: by studying her and by asking her questions.
If you have children living in the home, then of all the questions you could ask her, this one is especially revealing: Do you feel more like a mother or a wife?”
–C. J. Mahaney, Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God (Wheaton, Ill.: Crossway, 2004), 29.